Pleasure Is Power: The Important Truth Women Are Never Told

Somewhere along the way, women were sold a lie. A quiet, normalized, deeply toxic lie that says: if you’re not exhausted, you’re not doing enough. If you’re not in pain, you’re not trying hard enough. And if you do feel good, you’re probably being selfish.

Yeah. That one.

But here’s the truth: It is pleasure, not pain, that is your birthright. Dr. Christiane Northrup said that, and I could have cried the first time I heard it. Actually—I probably did. Because that single sentence called out every burned-out, soul-depleted version of me who had ever believed that martyrdom was noble and rest was earned.

Let me be clear: I’m not talking about surface-level pleasure here (though if fresh sheets and dark chocolate spark joy, go for it). I’m talking about deep nervous system pleasure. Safety. Softness. Slowness. That moment your shoulders drop and your jaw unclenches and your breath finally remembers how to be kind to you again.

This Is Why You’re Tired All the Time

You’re not lazy. You’re not broken. And you don’t need another productivity hack. What you need is permission to feel good. To want more. To reclaim the relationship between your body and joy without guilt.

Burnout doesn’t just come from doing too much. It comes from denying yourself what nourishes you while constantly giving away your energy like a free sample tray at Costco.

It’s not sustainable. And it’s not your fault.

What If Pleasure Was the Medicine?

We heal faster when we feel safe. We regulate our hormones better when we rest. Our brains function more clearly when we’re not constantly stuck in fight, flight, or fake smiling through everything.

So yes—pleasure is medicine. And your body isn’t wrong for craving it. In fact, it’s trying to save you.

This is why I created Transcendence—a piano instrumental written as a love letter to the nervous system. It’s not just background music. It’s the soundtrack to your return.

🎶 Listen to Transcendence on YouTube

How to Start Reclaiming Pleasure Today

1. Unclench
Notice where you’re holding tension and actively let it go. (You just did it, didn’t you?) That’s a start.

2. Choose one thing that brings joy—and do it like it matters
Not because you earned it. Not because it’s productive. Just because you’re allowed to feel good.

3. Take the Clarity Compass Quiz
Find out which stress pattern is running your system and get personalized guidance on what to do next. Take the 60-second quiz here .

Final Thoughts

When a woman stops settling for pain as her baseline and starts reclaiming pleasure as her compass—it changes everything. Her work. Her health. Her relationships. Her life.

You don’t need to hustle for your worth. You don’t need to earn rest. You were born for more than survival.

You were born to feel good.

✨ Let the Healing Begin

Take the Free Clarity Compass™ Quiz